If you want to understand the ones you love, try closing your mouth and opening your ears. I’m not saying this to be rude or anything, but in order to show that you really truly care, the best method is listening to what they have to say.
That is what our Father in Heaven does with us. He allows us to pour out our souls to Him and He waits. Then when all that needs to be said is said, He answers our pleas for help.
We are here to learn to be like Him, so we should do the same. We should have patience and allow our troubled loved ones to speak their mind, then with love, we respond so that everyone to clearly understood and the help needed is granted.